leadership

It's not about being nice!

It's not about being nice!

One of the biggest misconceptions about how leaders talk to people is that they are supposed to be "nice." It's not about being nice! It's about using the right tools to come across clearly and not shut people down - for some that can be harder than it sounds! Use these tools: 1) Manage your tone 2) Frame it so they can hear you 3) Be specific.

Performance appraisals that aren't terrible

Performance appraisals that aren't terrible

It's that time of year! Performance appraisal season. There is plenty of confusion and dread about this process. How do you make it most useful? The best way to approach it: 1) Measure outcomes; 2) measure leadership behaviors; 3) get feedback from others. 

Managing yourself in tough situations

Managing yourself in tough situations

It happens to all of us. We screw up something and then have to fix it. Often "fixing it" means having a tough conversation. Many people don't like to do that, and they certainly don't like anticipating it. Here are three tools for you to help set yourself up for success: 1) Learning lab; 2) Label; 3) Forgive yourself. 

Scaling your leadership

Scaling your leadership

Stepping into a much larger role is exciting and nerve-wracking. It requires you to expand yourself - to get as big as the new job. You need to scale your leadership. That may sound good, but what does that really mean? Three things to do: Three tools for you: 1) Set the big picture; 2) Scale your communication; 3) Reshape your network. 

Thinking fast on your feet

Thinking fast on your feet

Some people are naturally fast on their feet; the rest of us need to develop that skill. The best way to ensure you find the right ways to handle difficult moments and political environments is to plan. Today's article focuses on planning for three scenarios: 1) Moving forward your agenda; 2) Reacting to negative comments; 3) Giving in gracefully.

The most strategic habit you can develop

The most strategic habit you can develop

Counter-intuitive but true: sometimes the fastest way to do something is to slow down. Pausing is one of the most strategic habits you can develop. Three strategic moments to pause: 1) to start your day; 2) before key meetings and one-on-ones; 3) when you are surprised. I hope you find this useful! 

How to have a better fight

How to have a better fight

Conflict. So many people think that they have to contain conflict, resolve conflict and prevent conflict. And, if they would only hone their influence skills, they could prevent conflict. Wrong. Today's article underscores that 1) conflict is inevitable, 2) so make sure you pick the right fight, and 3) learn from the experience. 

Success in your new role

Success in your new role

How can you be successful when you take on a new role? Here are three ideas and what to do about them: 1) Remember that now you are "the boss;" 2) Design a learning plan; 3) Create coalitions. The second article gives you some more detail about how to create a learning plan. I hope you find this helpful!

The three R's of influence

The three R's of influence

Influence is a process, not an event. Influence is one of the most important tools to help you move forward. Start now. Pick one R you want to work on and pick one thing you will do to increase your Relevance, Rapport or Reciprocity. Let me know what you decide to work on and how it goes!